i occasionally get flirty dms from guys with gfs. i usually write them off as d-bags and assume they’re going to have a lifetime of crappy relationships. but recently i started to wonder why people cheat. i mean, it can literally ruin a person’s trust in relationships. it just doesn’t seem possible to me that all of these cheaters can be the scum of the earth. but, what do i know, maybe they are? so, of course, i asked you guys what you thought.
here’s what you said about cheating (& man did i get a ton of responses). people cheat because: 1.they’re with the wrong person or have lost feelings & are too afraid to break it off (bro. save a soul. man/woman up!) 2.they want a gf/bf but are too immature to settle. a wandering eye will always be the death of a relationship. 3.they’re insecure about not being good enough (you’re insecure so your going to make someone else insecure?) 4.they want the status of being in a relationship, but not the commitment/dont wanna be the only single one in the friend group, but aren’t ready for a relationship (BAD reason to date someone, full judgment.) 5.they want the thrill of possibly getting caught (take up cliff diving if youre feeling adventurous, not an affair!) 6.they aren’t getting what they need in their relationship (emotionally or physically), so they look for it elsewhere (dude, just tell your s.o., then decide to work it out or leave) 7.they were drunk and got carried away (*insert eye roll gif here*) 8.they are morally corrupt and, hence, serial cheaters (omg, will all of these cheaters PLEASE stand up & take your place as eternal a$$h0l3s!?)
regardless of reason, cheating is never the move. it robs the person who was cheated on of trust & leaves him/her wondering why he/she wasn’t good enough. but the cheater also loses. uncaught cheaters have to deal with loads of guilt. and caught cheaters get a reputation & will likely have trouble finding anyone to trust them, again. lose lose situation. so as carrie underwood once said “maybe next time you’ll think before you cheat.”
the reasons for cheating may be complicated, but the decision to refrain is not. do the right thing, y’all!
