the other day i met with a friend who needed advice for a project. she asked me about this account. how i started it, my biggest challenges, etc.. one question she asked was “what is the most difficult thing about having your blog?,” this was the easiest to answer. the highs and lows.
as it is with many things, the first few weeks are the best. i got about 1000 followers in the first month (i was confused, but blown away & beyond happy). but then it hit a plateau. all of my friends had moved onto the next new thing to talk about. the dm’s and comments from new people died down a bit. the amount of likes decreased. & i started to feel like i was failing.
and then i realized how silly this reliance on likes and follows is. i mean, i didn’t start blogging for likes, i did it because i like blogging. my happiness or worth shouldn’t be tied to a number.
getting attention can be toxic. it can make you want to ride that high & its nearly impossible to maintain. i’m going to focus on what i can control: my blogs, giving advice, meeting new people; and forget about all the superficial comparisons that are out of my hands: number of likes and amount of followers. it’s pretty darn freeing!
