so, we haven’t talked about sex in a while. probably because it has not been on my radar. (& by sex, i mean i’ve had none of that 🍆🍑🍌🍩🥜 shiz).
in a generation where “we met on tinder” will be a common phrase and sex on the first date seems expected, the whole dating thing can be a little intimidating. i tend to be a little conservative when it comes right down to it & i HATE having the you’re-not-even-getting-to-first-base talk on the first date. i think the worse part is that i’m afraid someone may not think i’m interested (even if i am), because my morals are holding me back.
but, sometimes, i wonder if it’s actually my morals or something else. honestly, it could be because i feel like such a novice because i’ve had such little experience. at nineteen, being a girl who goes to a large university, telling someone that i dont know what i’m doing, makes me want to dig a hole and bury myself in it. i guess i just missed that whole phase of my life when i was supposed to learn all this crap. like, was my package containing a handbook and sex toys mailed to the wrong address?
& who knows, maybe i’m not the only one not giving it up on the first date. actually, most of you voted that you dont hook up on the first date & in the chat, most said that if they wanted a relationship to last, they wouldn’t do anything scandalous right away. regardless, thats not how it feels (music, tv & social media – you aren’t helping!) i can honestly say i have no solution to this problem besides watching a bunch of porn or something, but ill pass on that one. hopefully ill just meet a guy who is as confused as i am… or patient enough to teach me.
