after being cheated on, this took a minute.
there are many things that define me. the color of my hair, the color of my eyes, the fact that i wear glasses most days, or even the styles i chose to wear. but yet, when i was with him, i seemed to lose all of that… i was defined by him. i was “his girlfriend”, and i spent my time pleasing him in every possible way. i changed my style. i wore my hair the way he liked it. i refrained from the activities he deemed off limits.
i was fully consumed by love and lust. and when he cheated on me, my world shattered like a window being shot by a pistol; i believed i was beyond repair.
even though the memories we made together will always live in the depths of my heart, i have found a new sense of identity since he walked out of my life. i dyed my hair the color i’ve always wanted it to be. i seek adventure wherever possible. i live more spontaneously. i feel more peaceful, more free, and much more happy.
defining yourself means being yourself. being in love means loving the others imperfections, not molding them into someone they’re not. and, most of all, you are not just one thing; you are the sum of all your beautiful parts.
so don’t let anyone change you, no matter how hard they try. even though being cheated on was a difficult process to say the least (and yes, it was certainly a process), i am much better because of it. i am strong. i am confident. i am happily grace. and hope you choose to be happily you.
