okay, okay. i know i said that i wasn’t dating like two posts ago, but hear my out on this one. i’ve been going on dates, without the intention of being in a committed relationship. im a hypocrite, i know. but cut me some slack!
i did a poll a few weeks ago about the “right” way to date. i asked two questions: one, why do people date, and two, is dating casually wrong. the responses i got were kinda surprising.
although 72% of you said that dating casually is totally normal, only 13% of you said that is the reason you date. so what is it? should dating be reserved for finding “the one,” or should we expect non-committal relationships.
& although there are thousands of books and blogs about how to date, i remain a skeptic. i’ve attempted the whole dating for life thing, and i’ve also tried my hand in the casual “let’s get drinks and not be exclusive.” what i’ve learned, they have both ended up with shit hitting the fan. my dating conclusion: there is simply no right way to do it. (on a more positive note: theres no wrong way to do it, either).
so, what i propose is that to really make a relationship work, you and your significant other need to agree on one critical thing (& it’s not whether pizza or pasta is better, even though agreeing on that does hold high importance). it’s to share the same opinion of what dating the right way means to you.
if you are both happy in a casual relationship with no titles, then great! but if you both feel the need to post on instagram daily about how much you love one another and put your anniversary date with the lock emoji in your bio, then do that. who tf am i to say what works and doesn’t work for you?! i may be cocky from time to time, but i don’t ride on that high of a horse.
hopefully you can find someone who you share the idea of what dating the right way means (& that you agree pizza is better than pasta). best of luck to all of us (& if you’ve ever dated before, you know that you will need it).
