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i am. not second choice

honestly, half of the time i spend on this page is in the form of writing captions and taking photos, and the other half is spent in my dms. but i’m not talking about responding to offers for sugar daddies or hopeful bachelors. actually, i’m referring to when people ask me for advice.

& after having this blog for over two years, i have noticed a trend. it seems like most of the people who ask for dating advice are in this position where the other person is choosing between them and someone else. & lately, i’ve noticed a similar story in my own life.

for me, if a guy is choosing between me and someone else, no matter how interested i am in them, i will surrender the battle. clearly, they aren’t really into either of us.

think about it: if you are really into someone, shouldn’t it be a no brainer? don’t you want someone who, in a room full of people, only sees you? & if he has a wandering eye now, what makes you think he won’t down the road? to me, all signs point to “exit.”

or think about it this way: switch the roles for a second. if i meet someone i really like, it’s the only think i can think about. on the other hand, if i am indecisive, i typically don’t care much about the outcome.

so if you ever find yourself being put second, (or simply, not first), think about what i’m saying. it may be hard, but don’t you deserve to be someone’s “one and only”?

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