i am. aware
(sex part II)
that this topic is divisive and that everyone has a belief about what’s right and wrong. wanna wait for marriage? great! think you should only do it when you’re in love? okay. plan to do it well and do it often? awesome. while i happen to believe in the second, how can i possibly say what’s right for you?
having said that, it seems as if sex is perceived by many to be an expectation and a tool to be used to gain boys affection. plenty of girls i know have admitted to having sex to get a boy to like her & often complain that they never get that second date. i decided to ask some experts (my guy friends) why this seems to happen. what they told me might surprise you. so ladies, listen carefully. although there are exceptions, in general, if you have sex on the first date boys will lose respect. you were too easy to get (& why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?) also, you’re depriving yourself of the anticipation of intimacy and may not experience the chivalry we all claim is dead. guys like the chase just as much as girls do.
if you do decide to have sex, make sure it’s for the right reason. you may want to wait and make sure he’s worthy of your affection.
