I am beyond surprised by the depth of emotion expressed by guys who have recently DM’ed me about a girl. One guy wanted to know if the girl he was talking to seemed interested, so he sent me a screenshot of their conversation (“wtf do these mixed signals even mean?!”). Another asked me how he should resolve an argument with his girlfriend (“how do i respond without pissing her off?”).
These open & unguarded requests for help have come from more than just these two guys. A lot have asked for advice and they seem to genuinely care more about making a girl happy than most of us think.
Even my brothers sit around and talk with their buddies about what girls want and give each other advice. One of my brother’s friends didn’t know he had to actually ask someone to be his girlfriend… he just assumed they were together. So after talking some sense into that child, he did it.
Most boys seem to have good intentions, but relationships can be super confusing and girls aren’t always the most straight up either (I know I’m not!).
I think sometimes we have a distorted view of guys. Maybe because we tend to belly ache and tweet about the times they’ve done us wrong. Or because guys hesitate to openly show emotion for fear of losing their man card. I’m sure that the d-bags exist, but let’s not lose faith in the male gender altogether.
While trying to find a good guy may feel the same as searching for a unicorn, they are out there, I’ve seen them with my own eyes.
Guys: if you ever need someone to talk to about a girl, please keep messaging me. I got u. Girls: keep your eye out for something magical.
