Unpopular opinion: I don’t want my boyfriend to put me first (Maybe second though).
The other day a girl reached out to me over DM and asked for some relationship advice. She told me that her and her boyfriend were taking a break because he needed to focus on school. He felt like he was less of a man because he couldn’t put her first and give her the time that she needs. Personally, I think this is a silly reason to break up, and I explained this to the girl I was messaging.
Sure, you want your significant other to value you, make time for you, make you better. But neither person in a relationship needs to completely turn “me” into “us” for it to work. the person you are seeing is supposed to compliment you and help you become a better person, not lose who they are. If I had to give up my life, my interests, my job because of the person I was seeing, I would quickly learn to resent them. & who wants that?
