to help you have the best first date ever! a friend of mine texted me the other day freaking out because he asked a girl out on a date. he wasn’t sure what they should do and his fear was that he’d find her trying to make the great escape. while this is one of the risks, i do have some tips to increase the odds that you’ll CRUSH this date. here they are:
1.be prepared. if you aren’t the most comfortable with small talk, look up a list of conversation starters.
2.show interest in what she has to say. ask questions that are personally revealing, without crossing any lines. how many people have you dated? is FINE. have you ever considered a threesome? is NOT!
3.acknowledge that it will be awkward. it is a first date after all.
4.comfort is key. dress for the occasion, but keep it simple. and put some effort into how you look. poor grooming is an instant turnoff.
5.when deciding where to go or what to do, suggest a few things and let your date choose. odds are you wont know what your date is into, so letting her have the final say will ensure that you’ll both be happy with the plan. for date ideas, check out the link in my bio ‘best date places in Ann Arbor’ (if you aren’t in a2, you can still use the suggestions for inspiration)
6.avoid controversial topics. no one wants a heated debate about the impact of global warming.
7.take a deep breath and be yourself. u got this!
8.be aware of your body language. if you sit with your arms and legs crossed, i’m gunna assume that you aren’t interested.
9.accept that she may not be interested in a second date. don’t take it personally. maybe, you just weren’t her cup of tea. better luck next time!
10.if the date did go well and you’d like to see her again, ask her directly. the first date is already full of unknowns, so subtle hints aren’t usually appreciated.
hopefully these tips will save you from some hella awkward silence and the typical “so uh… you like dogs?” type questions. dont forget, the dating game is tough, but it can also be pretty exciting. so, good luck! i hope these tips get her to say ‘yes’ to a second date.
