re-bound
/ˈrēˌbound
(noun)
the kind of relationship that’s simply happening in order to get over one that recently ended.
so i asked you guys the other day if you’d willingly start up a relationship with someone who just got out of one and, to my surprise, more than half of you said that you would.
from my experience, this. is. not. a. move. ya sure, in some cases that person may be ready to move on right after but, for most, that isn’t the case. when i was in hs, my bf, of a year a half, and i decided to call it quits. five days after the break up, i started talking to someone completely new (which i now know was likely to distract me from thinking about my ex). i’ve always gotten over things faster than cassie changed her mind about colton (bachelor reference), so i thought this would be no different. what shocked me, though, is that, even though i thought that my last relationship was behind me, some feelings lingered. my ex also thought he could move on, but that was far from the case.
seeing my ex with a new girl made me more jealous than i’d like to admit, and also caused me to have serious doubts about the new relationship i was potentially about to dive into. my ex also, unintentionally, hurt a really nice girl because he still had strong feelings for me.
so to the people who said that as long as both people are on the same page that it doesn’t matter, i’d rethink this. if the prior relationship was strong, you may end up as a rebound.
if you’ve been waiting patiently for you’re crush to finally be free, wait a little longer. don’t slide into her dms too soon if you really want a shot at a long term relationship. people need time to sort out their feelings and heal. let them have that before you try to make a move. you’ll be happy you did.
